04 Jul
Guide Posts
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Lesleywise2Navigating life’s road, with all its ups’n’downs is challenging, especially when we make the realization that we are in fact a spiritual being having a very temporary “earth” experience. So often we can lose sight of this truth and buy into all the petty dramas and societal “rules” offered by our friends and family. It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that “if only” things were different in our lives, or we had more money, or a more passionate love affair, or even a different career or job that we would be ever-happy and content. Sadly there are many wealthy, unhappy people out there.



Happiness is an inside job, but there are guidelines and powerful spiritual insights that can help us negotiate our way through life. When you find life throwing you a curve-ball, and discover that you are feeling unhappy, unsettled, anxious or even angry, skim through these “guide posts” and you will discover that what you believe is making you unhappy or unsettled may not be what you think it is. Change your mind about yourself, your life and your inner power and very soon you will discover that inner peace is simply a shift in thinking and not nearly as difficult as you thought it would be.



GUIDE POST No 1. Release your need to always be right


“Do you want to be right, or be happy,” from A Course In Miracles


We have been taught that the idea of being wrong makes us “wrong” but that’s not true. The “want” to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others, is simply not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?


GUIDE POST NO 2  - Let go of control:


“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” ~Lao Tzu


Control is the ultimate illusion because it simply never possible. Let go of your need to control those and around you as well as all situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or strangers on the street – just allow them to be as they are. You are not the world’s police-officer and it is not your job to sort everyone out! When you “Allow” you will see how much better will that make you feel.


GUIDE POST NO 3.  Release blame


 Let go of the need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.


11signposts2GUIDE POST NO 4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk


“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” ~Eckhart Tolle


So many people are hurting themselves because of a negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset. Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. Remember, always, that you are better than that.



GUIDE POST NO 5. Give up limiting beliefs


“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” ~Elly Roselle


Beliefs you hold about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible are limiting -- let that go. You are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Embrace your freedom and fly!



GUIDE POST NO 6. Give up complaining


So many people make complaining part of their daily conversation with anyone they come into contact with. So often we like to appear the “righteous victim” with the complaint about how “bad” it is out there, or how our partners/children and life itself is treating us These thoughts, these points of view, create your experience. The fact is that nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking, and the old adage: “live and let live”.



GUIDE POST NO 7. Give up the luxury of criticism


Criticism can easily morph into cynical griping about all and everything. Some of us seem to have an actual need to criticize things, events or people that are different or unusual. We temporarily feel better by this behaviour because it is all about being more superior/smarter/wider than the next person, who is obviously foolish. This is judgement and we have no right to do this. When we do, our energies drop into dark negative experiences. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.



11signposts3GUIDE POST NO 8. Give up your need to impress others


Take your focus away from peoples’ reaction or approval of you. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the masks drop and you can finally accept and embrace the real you. It is the real you that people will be drawn to quite effortlessly.



GUIDE POST NO 9. Give up your resistance to change


“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” ~Joseph Campbell


Change is good but it can be challenging because we love our patterns, not because they support our lives but because they make us feel secure. Change will help you move forward and make improvements in your life and in the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change and never resist it.



GUIDE POST NO 10. Give up on labels


“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~Wayne Dyer


The minute we label something, we put it in a box and separate ourselves from growing or learning. Sadly this is a sign of a little mind that has no flexibility or ability to expand. If you do not understand it; ask! Be polite but ask that person to explain or expand on what you are seeing. Minds only work when open.



GUIDE POST NO 11. Never allow fear to guide your life


“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” ~Franklin D. Roosevelt


Fear is just an illusion. It doesn’t exist – you created it because it’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.



GUIDE POST NO 12. Drop excuses


Yes, you may have good “reasons” not to follow your intuition/dreams/desires, but in the end, it is fear that is making you betray yourself. Remember this and suddenly you will discover a magical pathway opening up before you. When I look back on my life I can see that so often the things that have gone wrong occurred because I was too “afraid” to take the steps I knew I should take. Forgive your past and then focus on your now. Ask yourself where you are currently allowing fear to guide you. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives excuses mean we get stuck by lying to ourselves. These excuses are usually not even real anyway and they actually prevent magical experiences happening in your life.



GUIDE POST NO 13. Give up the past


This can be very hard, especially when the past looks better than the present. Remember that the present is a “present” because it is the only place of power and therefore the only place where you can make changes. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. Life is a journey not a destination. Visualize a powerful future but work in the now to create it. You can only do that if you are fully present in the now.



GUIDE POST NO 14. Give up attachment


According to the Buddha, it is attachment that causes all our woes, troubles and strife. It can be hard to grasp yet you will discover that the moment you detach yourself from all things peace enters your life. This doesn’t mean you give up your love for them; it just means that you have no attachment to how things should “look” or “be.” You remain open, flexible and truly loving. Attachment is a child of fear and therefore it runs contrary of love. If you practice this, at times challenging focus, you will become peaceful, tolerant, kind, and serene.



GUIDE POST NO 15. Give up living other people’s expectations


When you worry more about someone’s expectations than following your heart, you are in essence betraying yourself. So often we have been gently pushed into living a life according to what others (often parents) think is best. Although they may have the best of intentions, it is vital to find your own path in life. When we follow others we ignore the inner voice, your inner calling and ultimately your heart. When we do this, we can lose contact with our selves. Remember that your life is your gift and so you must live it, own it, and express it your way.



Chances are that you already “know” all of these guide-posts, but because of conditioning, pressure and the world-view, we can easily slip into old dysfunctional patterns. Therefore, when you find yourself feeling stressed, simply review these points and see if any them “ring” an inner bell of knowing. In the end, the essence is, as the Buddha taught us, attachment to how things have always been, our patterns, and our fears. Bravely step onto your path with love, and you will discover that inner peace is always within reach!


lesleywinner1Lesley Crossingham is a spiritual author, clairvoyant and spiritual artist.



You can discover more about her on her listing, or on her website.




Lesley is our winner of the People's Choice Spiritual author of the year, 2013. She is the author of over eight book titles and numerous magazine articles. Lesley has been offering her spiritual teachings and wisdom-circles for close to thirty years.

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Lesley Ann is a spiritual artist, an author of over twenty books, clairvoyant and spiritual teacher. She was awarded our Find Your Psychic Spiritual Author of the Year award for the past five years due to her many popular spiritual book titles. Lesley has also been voted International Spirit Guide Artist for the year, 2019


Lesley has written over twenty books, numerous magazine articles and many short stories. She has also created several recordings of her music and spiritual meditations. She introduced traditional Native American Indian drummaking to Australia in 1991 and continues to offer these workshops.

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Lesley writes for several magazines, including New Dawn where she contributes book reviews. You can also read her many book reviews on Amazon's website. Lesley has a journalism background and brings her many skills to writing articles on this site and many others.


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